The absolute true nature of humanity is this – self interest and personal satisfaction. Every self help book will likely remind you, at one time or another, that people inherently don’t think about anyone other than themselves. Every conversation must relate to us in some capacity or we aren’t interested. Every other person on the planet should be considerate of our needs and rights and should do their utmost to make us happy. Never mind their wants or needs as long as we get what we want.
I would like to disprove this theory. I would like to be able to say that people out there really do give a crap about others, but as far as I can see, even the most kind, considerate person still receives a level of selfish pleasure and accomplishment from helping others in some small way. Most people who claim to be unselfish actually end up showing more selfishness than the average clueless person. Many can justify their unselfishness through small meaningless gestures that ask for nothing but minimal effort.
Life therefore presents a challenge. What if you could consider other people’s goals and needs before your own, consider their problems before whining about your own? Maybe you would still be acting selfishly, but in a selfish world, the considerate people can cheat the system. Maybe if we stopped fighting for prestige and power and recognition and tried to help others achieve it, we could make the world just a little bit of a better place… or maybe not. Either way, none of us can consider ourselves good people if we are not willing to at least try. In the land of men, the servant is king.
So the rules (guidelines) are as follows:
PRINCIPLE 1: Do not criticize, condemn or complain
PRINCIPLE 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
PRINCIPLE 3: Arouse in other people an eager want
PRINCIPLE 4: Become genuinely interested in other people
PRINCIPLE 5: Smile
PRINCIPLE 6: Remember people’s names
PRINCIPLE 7: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
PRINCIPLE 8: Talk in the term of the other’s interest
PRINCIPLE 9: Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely